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Women never cease to disappoint me.
So many women complain that men don't love them for their personalities, only for their looks. The vast majority of those women say the personality traits they're looking for in a man include confidence, assertiveness, and decisiveness; but how many women actually display those traits, especially when dealing with someone they're interested in? They'd rather sit around looking pretty while expecting someone else to do the work of actually getting a relationship started. No amount of complaining about gender roles will get them to actually break out of their role and make a move on their own. It's one thing for a woman who accepts gender roles to expect to be valued for different traits than a man, but for the women who believe that they should be treated as equals and judged by the same standards as men to be so unwilling or unable to adopt the personality traits that they expect in men makes me wonder how they can expect to be valued for their personalities.
Men have to do 90% of the work of getting any relationship started; women rarely initiate flirting, they rarely ask for our numbers, they rarely touch us unless we've touched them first, they rarely kiss us unless we've kissed them first, they won't ask us out on dates or flake on us if they do, they won't make the first move no matter how badly they want us, but they'll for damn sure complain that relationships aren't equal in a way that implies that they're the ones getting the worse deal, that we're using them and they're being used. Getting used is the easy part: you don't have to make any decisions, you have no responsibilities, you always have someone to blame when things go wrong or when things don't work out. If you don't get what you want, you never have to blame yourself or analyze what you did wrong, and you even get to feel like you're being useful to someone in the meantime.
But somehow, men get accused of being shallow and superficial because the only thing we can find to like about women is their looks, because it's too difficult for women to have the type of personalities that we could actually value them for. When the majority of women would be lying if they said fashion, makeup, hair, and shoes aren't among their main interests in life, how the hell is it our fault that women are judged by their looks? Women like it when men look good, but you don't see us giving a fuck or going out of our way to change the way we look to impress them. If we so much as comment on a woman's looks (and they'll beg us to tell them what we think about their clothes, their hair, etc.), they'll spend hours obsessing over it and changing their appearance to meet our needs. If women are such sheep that they'll rearrange their lives to meet someone else's needs and desires, in what way can they claim that they actually have enough of a personality to be loved for it? And if women want to be loved for their personalities, why spend so much time and effort catering to the type of men who couldn't love a woman for who she is inside even if they were lucky enough to meet one who actually had something inside, instead of at least catering to men who may appreciate good looks but care more about more important things, let alone actually doing what they want instead of spending their entire lives worrying about what other people want? How are we supposed to respect you when your entire self worth is based around what other people think of you?
If women really wanted a different position in life, they'd have gotten it by now; if they were actually men's equals and actually able to handle the same things we can handle, they'd have already marginalized the men who don't treat them equally and they'd have their equal treatment by now. Unfortunately, the vast majority of women aren't capable of living up to equality, and most of them wouldn't want it if it were forced upon them. It would simply be too much work for them, and they'd rather sit around looking pretty while expecting other people to get what they want for them so they can complain whenever things don't go their way without ever having to do anything about it.
Women never cease to disappoint me.
So many women complain that men don't love them for their personalities, only for their looks. The vast majority of those women say the personality traits they're looking for in a man include confidence, assertiveness, and decisiveness; but how many women actually display those traits, especially when dealing with someone they're interested in? They'd rather sit around looking pretty while expecting someone else to do the work of actually getting a relationship started. No amount of complaining about gender roles will get them to actually break out of their role and make a move on their own. It's one thing for a woman who accepts gender roles to expect to be valued for different traits than a man, but for the women who believe that they should be treated as equals and judged by the same standards as men to be so unwilling or unable to adopt the personality traits that they expect in men makes me wonder how they can expect to be valued for their personalities.
Men have to do 90% of the work of getting any relationship started; women rarely initiate flirting, they rarely ask for our numbers, they rarely touch us unless we've touched them first, they rarely kiss us unless we've kissed them first, they won't ask us out on dates or flake on us if they do, they won't make the first move no matter how badly they want us, but they'll for damn sure complain that relationships aren't equal in a way that implies that they're the ones getting the worse deal, that we're using them and they're being used. Getting used is the easy part: you don't have to make any decisions, you have no responsibilities, you always have someone to blame when things go wrong or when things don't work out. If you don't get what you want, you never have to blame yourself or analyze what you did wrong, and you even get to feel like you're being useful to someone in the meantime.
But somehow, men get accused of being shallow and superficial because the only thing we can find to like about women is their looks, because it's too difficult for women to have the type of personalities that we could actually value them for. When the majority of women would be lying if they said fashion, makeup, hair, and shoes aren't among their main interests in life, how the hell is it our fault that women are judged by their looks? Women like it when men look good, but you don't see us giving a fuck or going out of our way to change the way we look to impress them. If we so much as comment on a woman's looks (and they'll beg us to tell them what we think about their clothes, their hair, etc.), they'll spend hours obsessing over it and changing their appearance to meet our needs. If women are such sheep that they'll rearrange their lives to meet someone else's needs and desires, in what way can they claim that they actually have enough of a personality to be loved for it? And if women want to be loved for their personalities, why spend so much time and effort catering to the type of men who couldn't love a woman for who she is inside even if they were lucky enough to meet one who actually had something inside, instead of at least catering to men who may appreciate good looks but care more about more important things, let alone actually doing what they want instead of spending their entire lives worrying about what other people want? How are we supposed to respect you when your entire self worth is based around what other people think of you?
If women really wanted a different position in life, they'd have gotten it by now; if they were actually men's equals and actually able to handle the same things we can handle, they'd have already marginalized the men who don't treat them equally and they'd have their equal treatment by now. Unfortunately, the vast majority of women aren't capable of living up to equality, and most of them wouldn't want it if it were forced upon them. It would simply be too much work for them, and they'd rather sit around looking pretty while expecting other people to get what they want for them so they can complain whenever things don't go their way without ever having to do anything about it.
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